Comments for A Lard Off My Mind

Comment on Not so tiny dancer by manda

manda — Fri, 16 May 2008 11:18:03 +0000

Oh I like that sentiment, Thank you.

Comment on Not so tiny dancer by Ed R

Ed R — Fri, 16 May 2008 00:46:31 +0000

I should also say this- good for you, Katy. I dated a belly dancer for a bit in my 20’s. She was constantly lamenting the lack of size on most women in her classes. She really wanted to get the idea out that belly dancing was for everyone, not just for girls skinnier than the grass in their skirts ( she taught hula, too ).

Comment on Not so tiny dancer by Ed R

Ed R — Fri, 16 May 2008 00:43:54 +0000

Man, what a great clip! That whole scene was really cool!

Comment on frustrations by Miss Mohair

Miss Mohair — Wed, 14 May 2008 20:05:10 +0000

I gradually, and for various reasons, went up four dress sizes over about four years, and have stayed here for about seven years. And what I noticed during the time I was putting on weight was how much a matter of perspective it all was. So it occurred to me that as I didn’t know how fat I was going to get, at any point along the way I could be relatively slim. Because now I think, oh size 18, I was a mere slip of a thing. And I felt it was really important to try and be nice to myself, and not mean, and wear the prettiest clothes I could find that I could afford. And always wear my lippie etc. Because life is hard enough without being mean to myself for being fat.
I think it’s all that stuff which is quite hard to write about without sounding like a dickhead, but I really think, well if now isn’t the time to love and accept myself as I am, when is? If I can only be kind and accepting of myself when I’m slimmer and things are going well in life, then it’s not much bloody use really. When I’m slimmer I can wear my prettiest frocks and my nicest cardis, so it’s already easy to feel good about myself physically. So I decided not to wait, and to say it’s ok now. In an ideal world it’s not what I would choose, but this is how things are, and probably, for me, how they’re going to be for a while yet. So I have my beautiful red mohair cardi, and my nice slimming black skirt which kicks out slightly as I walk, and you know, whatever. Ebay has been great in helping me get nice tops, and a few frocks. America has a big population and there are lots of fat people there, so there are los of clothes to put them in.
I’m not wanting to undermine your feelings of frustration Anna, because if you’re frustrated, you’re frustrated, and that’s how it is. But for myself, and for all my fellow porketeers, I don’t think we should wait for anything. I don’t think we should wait to look nice in new clothes or to think we’re ok as we are. We are ok. It’s just that we’re ok, fatly.
So maybe you already are a success story. And maybe you are going at an acceptable pace. And things are gradually moving and shifting, even though it sometimes feels like NOTHING’S HAPPENING.
That’s how I look at it anyway.
Lots of luck.

Comment on frustrations by clare

clare — Tue, 13 May 2008 16:28:16 +0000

I do the not-buying-clothes thing, too. Waiting until I’m less big. But then it doesn’t happen, so I just end up clothesless and miserable. Had a bit of a revelation a year or so ago though, and went out bought BIG clothes. Nice ones. And lots of them. And to hell with losing weight. It made me feel so much better just to have some nice clothes to wear again. That fitted me. Made me feel a whole lot better about the weight thing, too. It was as though I was punishing myself for being fat(-ish), by making myself look even worse than I needed to.

I also put off having both my babies until various complicated life things were out of the way, and put off losing weight until after I’d had each baby… the whole putting-off thing is easy to get into. But then again, why does everythinghave to be done all at once in a great big rush? There’s something to be said for chilling out and doing things at your own pace… can be much more enjoyable that way. And when you do finally get round to doing the things you’ve been putting off, they generally work just as well as they might have done if you’d done them earlier… so as long as you get round to it eventually, I don’t think it matters.

Comment on frustrations by Katy

Katy — Mon, 12 May 2008 22:13:08 +0000

I do this too. I mean, put off major life events until I’ve lost weight. I also put off losing weight until various life events have happened. I even put off buying clothes for about six months, but I’m coming out of that phrase now because (a) I have nothing to wear and (b) I am so sick of what I DO have to wear that I just can’t bear it.

But yes. I do this too.

Also, I am not sure if I have wished you happy birthday yet so HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANNA.

Comment on frustrations by Terri

Terri — Mon, 12 May 2008 13:48:05 +0000

The thing is 4 or 5 stone is still 4 or 5 stone no matter how long it takes. To lose that much and keep it off is an acheivement in itself. It’s not a competition or a race after all.

Having said all that, I mentioned your story to my mum just now and her jaw literally dropped! It takes a lot to impress my mum, so I would say 4 / 5 stone in 18 to 24 months must be rather spectacular - well done you!

Comment on frustrations by anna

anna — Mon, 12 May 2008 10:23:01 +0000

I know, I know I sound a bit ungrateful - and that’s probably another reason not to want to talk about it very much. And it’s probably 4 or five stone over a couple of years or more, I’m not very good at tracking these things.

But yay, and thank you. And hello Elle, and aren’t you lovely? (Yes, you are)

Comment on frustrations by clare

clare — Mon, 12 May 2008 09:42:21 +0000

“I guess the trick is to *actually* enjoy it, sans guilt, and to enjoy more active activities too in equal measure.”

She right. But it very difficult, I know.

4 or 5 stone in 18 months isn’t slow at all. It’s rather fast. It just doesn’t feel that way. But never mind all that, well done for being you. That’s a spectacular achievement, and one which you keep making. And hurrah for that.

Comment on frustrations by elle

elle — Mon, 12 May 2008 08:22:21 +0000

Dear Anna,

I lurk on both your blogs, and rarely comment, but now seems a good time to say: you are FANTASTIC! You are AMAZING! You are an inspiration to MILLIONS! (Or at least to me.) Over the winter I was feeling sluggish and a bit podgy and miserable. You and the other splendid denizens of ALOMM have unknowingly egged me on to take my gym work up a gear and rethink my eating a bit without obsessing. I’ve dropped half a stone since then, got a lot fitter — can now run two miles comfortably — and am planning to do the same again by the end of the summer. So, you know, thanks!

And hey, what’s wrong with enjoying food? If we didn’t enjoy it there’d be little incentive to eat… I guess the trick is to *actually* enjoy it, sans guilt, and to enjoy more active activities too in equal measure.

In short, you are a wonder and a marvel and all-round superstar. So there.